Honour shame

In modern societies, honor refers primarily to a form of social status that attaches to integrity and sound character.

Honour shame

Samuel Beckett, Watt 'The shame of being a man - is there any better reason to write? Here, 'a man' names a principle, a force, perhaps even force itself for Deleuze. It names blockage, formalization, dominion, man 'insofar as man presents himself as a dominant form of expression that claims to impose itself on all matter'.

Perhaps what this slogan means, therefore, is that to write is to be unmannned, meritoriously to unman yourself, by taking flight into the condition that Deleuze calls 'becoming-woman', though he is careful to specify that being a woman in the first place would not mean that you had won the race away from domination, but would simply give you a head-start, since 'even when it is a woman who is becoming, she has to become-woman, and this becoming has nothing to do with a state she could claim as her own'.

Here, I will try saying that to write is not to free oneself from the shame of being a man, or not, at least, but for sure, if you are this one. Writing might also be a way of meeting with shame, a coming in to male shamefulness. I have surprised myself by wanting to be able to conclude that male shame, or my kind, is less to be regretted than one might at first think.

I will say this. First, that men are coming into shame; men have often before been ashamed of particular ways of falling short of being a man, but now some men are encountering the shamefulness of being a man as such and at all. To be honest, being a man has always been a bit of a gamble, and has always involved jeopardy, the risk of falling short of being a man.

Now, however, there is a swelling certainty that to be a man is in and of itself to fall short. Secondly, I will briefly review some of the thinking about shame, especially in its relations to guilt that has been done in philosophy, psychology anthropology and sociology during the last century.

I will suggest that, where shame tends nowadays to be seen as a moral emotion, and to be discussed as an ethical problem, its reach is larger than this.

I will argue that shame is not only to be thought of as a moral prop or provocation, but a condition of being, a life-form, even, and will offer a brief, wild phenomenology of it.

Thirdly, I will suggest that male masochism is not so much the expression of shame, as an attempt to exorcise it, by turning shame into guilt and thereby taking its measure, and making it expiable. Fourthly, I will consider the power of shame, suggesting that it has possibilities beyond those traditionally claimed for it.

Doubtless, one can die of shame, as Salman Rushdie has said; but, stranger than this, it seems one can live of it too. I am ashamed of being a man. Whether I have grown ashamed of being a man, or merely grown aware of always having been so, I do not yet know how to tell.

Why be ashamed of being a man? To ask the question is to answer it. To be a man is more and more to be - to be able to be, for it appears to be a power as well as a predicament - a disgrace, to be disgrace itself. How queerly all this coincides with the fact that it is now compulsory to be a man, for all.

All must strive for, and to be, the phallus, and size, as every advertisement coyly sniggers, matters. Women must be men, in order to be real women, and all the men must too, the only difference being that men can be counted on to come a cropper at it and thus body forth the failure of being a man.

Anyone can be a man, in fact, everyone must be a man, there's no choice but to be, for anyone but me, with any luck, if there's any justice, so help me. The Cretan statement 'I am ashamed of being a man' is as self-falsifying as the statement 'I am dead'.

It is out of the question to be ashamed and in the same breath to say you are.

Honour shame

The moment that you can say you are ashamed, you break free of shame's suffocating clasp and start puffing the pungent whiff of imposture, even though you are now exposed to the new, but only minor shame of having distorted your shame into intelligibility, shame made over into wordy sham.If you are looking for support, advice, safety information or referral to local services.

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Honor has attracted a considerable amount of scholarly attention across the social sciences. Peristiany on Mediterranean societies was an early and influential discussion, describing the principal features of honor cultures.

Not long afterwards, Berger, et al. declared the obsolescence of honor, seeing the culture of dignity as being much more compatible with the. - Are you being pressured to get married against your will? - Do you fear to bring shame or dishonour on your family?

- Have you been emotionally or physically abused? Honour based violence ‘Honour' based violence (HBV) is a form of domestic abuse which is perpetrated in the name of so called ‘honour'. The honour code which it refers to is set at the discretion of male relatives and women who do not abide by the ‘rules' are then punished for bringing shame .

Jer (NAS) "Were they ashamed because of the abomination they have done? They were not even ashamed at all; they did not even know how to blush.". Gentle Readers, i f you read this page to the end, and stay in the moment while doing so, you are to be congratulated.

Honour shame

I know it is difficult to believe that Canada, a western democratic nation of such rich cultural diversity, a nation of highly respected global peacekeepers, carries shame and prejudice of this magnitude towards thousands and thousands of its own citizens.

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